I have always been a fairly organized person. Someone who gets involved in clubs and takes on a board position and/or committee chair person. I commit to things and meet my commitments. Busy is Better!
Lately I was struggling to get things done, and found some items on my to-do list week after week. What happened? Why was I suddenly falling behind, not juggling my life the way I always have? Then there was that moment, the flip of a switch, the lightbulb came on and I figured it out.
I am no longer juggling just my responsibilities. I am also juggling those of my deceased husband, plus the additional phone calls and paperwork that have to be done to get everything transferred into my name, his name removed from things, etc. Then of course there is the learning curve in which everything he did takes me a considerably longer amount of time because I don’t have a full grasp of it yet. That is improving, but it is a process.
Every process, every learning curve has its bumps in the road. There are frustrations that come with everything. The frustration of living in a computer generated world in which computers rule what happens and people follow the computer rather than thinking and using logical, common sense. The aggravation that is felt when all the appropriate steps have been taken, only to find out the company didn’t do what they should have and so you have to take further steps to correct things.
I applied for a mortgage modification and got approved, but they never told me not to make a payment, so I have made them all, but in the meantime they are holding my payments in “suspense” while they complete the change over and are repeatedly sending me delinquent notices, including by certified mail that I had to go sign for. When I called I was told those are computer generated notices and I will continue to receive them until they get everything rolled over. And how long will that take? Oh, about two more weeks.
I drove over 35 miles to a main cell phone store to switch the account from my husbands to my own name. I gave them all my information, told them to remove my husband’s phone and two pads he had. Put the account in my name, leave my daughter on as a manager. The phone and pad did get removed, but when my daughter called to get assistance with her phone the pass codes I gave them weren’t working. As it turns out that is because they never made the switch. They still had the account in my husband’s name, had me as a manger, which I had been before my husband’s death, and removed my daughter as a manager. Then I had to wait and call back on a weekday, because this I found out on the weekend. When I called I informed them it was rather incompetent being I had stood in their store with a death certificate and yet they left my husband on as the owner of the account…a dead man has no responsibility to you to pay the bill! Got that one fixed.
That is only two in a long list of situations that have created chaos in an already chaotic situation. Then of course there are the regular duties of paying bills, service on motor vehicles, and lawn mowing that my husband always handled. My daughter commented that she knows she needs to come over and mow my lawn. I told her instruction on use of the riding lawnmower would allow me to handle the task myself. Seriously, I have driven boats, jet skis, motorcycle and moped, I should be able to handle a wild and crazy lawnmower!
So, when I got to really thinking it about it I finally realized, the reason I am trying to juggle but falling behind is because I am handling everything that was previously handled by two, and I haven’t gotten the process down yet. On a positive note, I am improving. It is a process.