Thanksgiving has become a day when people are encouraged to express their thanks for the good things in their lives. Quite often one will say they are thankful for their husband, children, and friends. Rarely do you hear anyone say they are thankful for where they are at financially or for their worldly possessions. That just seems inappropriate, cold, and self-centered. So then why do we allow those things to take priority in our day-to-day lives the rest of the year.
I stumbled across this quote from Oprah Winfrey, “Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never ever have enough.”
We live in a society where people are always striving to acquire more materialistic possessions…a bigger house, better car, nicer clothes, participate in fine dining, the best of the best. Unfortunately there are also a lot of people who are unable to achieve those things. Families that struggle financially, working just to pay their bills without luxuries others take for granted. Are those people less happy than those who have everything? Not necessarily. In some ways they may be emotionally richer.
Your happiness in life is not a product of the wealth. It is of the relationships you have, the peace you feel in your life. If you are always striving to better yourself financially, working hard to purchase all the “things” you want, doing what it takes to prove you are an accomplished person, you may find yourself with a lot of possessions but not really happy. You will always be pushing for something bigger and better, striving for a fulfillment you can’t quite reach.
If you concentrate on enjoying the little things in life — the beauty of a sunrise or sunset, the perfection of a flower in bloom, the joy in a child’s laughter, the sound of the waves crashing on a shore, and personal connections to the people around you, that is when you will find yourself content. Those are the things that hold value far greater than anything you can purchase. They are what gives life meaning.
Be thankful for what you have, not what you can purchase. If you concentrate on materialistic things you will never be fulfilled. If you focus on what you do have, the things that money can not buy and realize their value, you will find contentment, and anything beyond that is a bonus.
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Your attitude, the way you think or feel, is generally reflected in your behavior. Your own personal demeanor affects the way people view and respond to you. The attitude of people around you has an impact on the way you respond and behave toward them. I believe that temperament impacts people both emotionally and physically, and for that reason a positive attitude is important to a person’s emotional well-being.
Your own personal attitude has a great impact on how you feel throughout the day and your overall outlook on life. If you feel that life has thrown you the scrungy bone and you must gnaw away at it, you will likely make very little progress and will feel depressed, over burdened and uninspired about life. Not only will your attitude leave you feeling low, but it will be portrayed in your dealings with others, and may leave them feeling oppressed by emotions as well.
Alternatively if you go through your day with a positive attitude, knowing that no matter what happens things are going to improve, your positive outlook will not only keep you emotionally stable, it will affect those around you as well. Why? Because with a positive mindset you maintain an emotionally healthy attitude, and that positive outlook is well received by all around you.
The attitude a person portrays has great impact on how others perceive them. This is frequently most obvious when dealing with economic differences. A person’s temperament when interacting with those he/she perceives to be below their social class is one of the most obvious insights into a person’s character. Stiffness, curt politeness, a lack of genuine friendliness or outright rudeness is evident in those who think themselves better than others. Far greater is the person who realizes those differences yet treats all with kindness and compassion.
If you have the opportunity to take part in a gathering in which there are a wide range of economic levels sit back and enjoy the show. People of money may snub those who they view as being below them. Those who are of lower income ranges may be intimidated by the social status and obvious wealth of others. The true judge of character in this type of setting is the person of wealth who treats those who are struggling economically with consideration, kindness, and as an equal. This is a person of great integrity. They recognize that they have obtained wealth, but they do not fault those around them that have been unable to achieve that goal.
It is important that a person maintain a positive attitude as that is crucial to success, and the key to success is belief in one’s own ability. This does not mean you will always achieve your goals. The key to keeping positive is to always be striving for something. Regardless of whether or not you succeed, attitude is at least 50% of the battle. There is a saying, “Whether you believe you can or believe you can’t, either way you are right.” That is how strongly attitude affects your ability to succeed in whatever you set out to accomplish.
As you go through life keep your attitude in check. Think about how it affects your own emotional well being. Think about how it affects the emotional well-being of others. Don’t focus on problems, focus on possibilities. Keep your integrity about you and let it guide you in how you handle interactions with others. Think positive. Believe in yourself. Believe in others. A positive attitude will take you farther than you ever dreamed possible.